Mid Week Conandrum - My take on Marriage
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My Take On Marriages
Carrie Bradshaw has been my muse this week. Her ‘research’ methods—if you can call them that—drive me to write this blog daily. Today, I conducted my own research, and here are my findings.
Someone at work asked me who my favourite actor was. Simple enough, right? Until I realized all my old favourites are now either unattractive, aged, or embroiled in scandal—yes, I’m looking at you, Leonardo DiCaprio. I knew my answer would be judged, and while I could have said Vicky Kaushal, Adrien Brody, or even Eric Bana, those were afterthoughts.
Somehow, the conversation swerved toward love. Suddenly, women from across age groups were chiming in, right in the middle of the office, like we were taping an episode of a very serious podcast. Everyone had something to say about love—falling into it, being in it, staying in it. My own experience in this area is limited, so I mostly stayed quiet, eavesdropping on wisdom I didn’t yet have.
Then, one woman piped up, "I feel like polygamous marriages are going to be the new norm." Now that, I didn’t expect. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I lack opinions, and if you think this conversation doesn’t concern me—then, honey, you’ve missed the point of this blog.
We’ve all heard it—"Marriages are sacred." It’s not a direct quote from anyone, but it’s a mantra you hear often. Society clings to the idea that marriage comes with a set of moral codes we hope our future partners will also follow.
But let’s be honest—marriage isn’t treated as sacred anymore. Most of your relatives are either getting married because they’ve hit a certain age and feel like it’s time to settle, or they’re too young, pushed into it by parents eager to shut down their teenage "bf-gf" drama. Marriage is not a decision people are making from a long-term perspective, but to close the immediate desires or societal expectations.
Manyavaar's latest advertisement, starring Jahanvi Kapoor, hops onto the idea that one should get married when one feels they are ready from the heart to get married. But most people don't make decisions from the heart, sorry Princess Diana. And that's quite valid.
And even if one gets married, their worst nightmare would be a partner with wandering eyes. But what if this partner desires something more than just going for sex outside marriage? What if this person wants their married partner to join the new fold? If this would happen to you, could you handle that?
Personally, I find the idea of polygamous marriages unsettling. When some people think of relationships, their thoughts are more driven by sexual urges than by values or the broader implications. How could they be so narcissistic, and stop evolving and moving to the next tier of human needs?
The question I keep asking myself is: will I ever fall in love for the sake of love itself? Not because of some fleeting desire or a trend that’s distorting the traditional family structure. I guess only time will tell.
