Why is it so hard to say what we really mean? 

I went in circles at the office because I had a situation with a particular task. The anxiety was piling up, and since I am a toddler in corporate, I had to find my parent and vent it out. The parent in question could only be accessed through a multi-level hierarchy called the corporate ladder, which seemed torturous to climb, but I just barged into her door. What was going to come next from my mouth could very well decide my future here—or not. I don't know; I am an overthinker.

But let's backtrack. "How do I approach him for guidance?" I asked my colleague.

"You speak less and give a solution to your problem while speaking to him," said my colleague. That's it. The formula was simple, and the parent was a highly approachable person. That is, until I heard stories about other children and their conversations with "the parent."

"And when I did this, he screamed at me," they said. The information I received about "the parent" was enough to put me on the edge of my seat! The parent was the top dawg, positioned as such due to his designation and the power it holds.

And so there I was, thinking about how well I should present my case, and goddamn—why is it so hard to say what we really mean?

It doesn't matter if you are speaking to your boss or your best friend; you will never come across your true authentic self. You will find yourself hiding something due to multi-dimensional elements, best known to you.

But haven't we all explored this solution to the above problem? "Isn't it better said than not?" What could possibly go wrong if you said what you really meant? At worst, you will be fired from your job, rejected by the so-called love of your life, or disowned by your parents. It's not the ideal situation anyone wants to find themselves in—and that's the rock bottom.

But what if speaking your mind is really relieving? It makes your heart feel a little lighter, and you feel free. You get the guidance, respect, and admiration for it.

Before you decide to speak your mind, though, measure all the pros and cons of your decision, make a mind map of sorts, and then see which path you want to lead yourself into. And always remember to keep it a balancing act—don't make extreme decisions!

So, while we're all trying to figure out our way in life, what's the scariest moment you've faced in speaking your truth—and was it worth it?

Huzzah!